Will I Get to See My Child After Placing Them Up for Adoption?
One of the most difficult parts of the adoption process for birth mothers is the separation from their child. You may be wondering if there is any way to be involved in your child’s life post-placement. It’s natural to feel attached to your child and desire to be involved in their life while they grow up. However, the extent to which you are involved in your child’s life after placing them for adoption is not something you get to decide on your own. This is something you will discuss during the planning process with your adoption caseworker.
Through What Type of Adoption Can I See My Child?
When choosing an adoption plan with one of our adoption agencies, whether it be Adoption Choices in San Antonio, Dallas, or any of our other locations in Texas, you will collaborate with the adoptive parents to figure out what type of adoption your child will have. If you choose to go the route of open adoption, you will be involved in your child’s life to some extent and even interact with them in person. In an open adoption, your child will get to meet you, spend time with you, and maybe even get to know your family members. However, it’s important to note that fully open adoption is not typically the top choice of many adoptive parents. When a child knows that they are adopted and spend a lot of time with their birth mother, they may feel confused about who their birth parents are. As a result, they may become distant from their adoptive parents or experience other behavioral issues that accompany the confusion and other emotions that may arise.
Consequently, many adoptive parents will desire to have a semi-open adoption. Through this Texas adoption process, you will be able to send your child letters and keep in contact with them, but you won’t be quite as involved in their life. Of course, there is the possibility of seeing your child at some point later on. Still, typically with a semi-open adoption, your child will mainly get to know you through stories, letters, gifts, or other forms of interaction that don’t require direct contact.
Do I Need to Be Involved in My Child’s Life After Placing Them for Adoption?
How involved you are in your child’s life is your choice. If you don’t want to deal with the difficult emotions that may arise or just feel the need to move on with your life after the adoption is complete, you are not legally required to stay involved in your child’s life post-placement. However, as is the case with many birth mothers, you may be choosing the route of adoption purely because you have no way of taking care of a child at your stage of life—many birth mothers who decide on choosing adoption may have the desire to stay at least somewhat connected to their child post-placement. However, if you don’t want to see your child after the adoption is complete for any reason, don’t feel guilty! Your child will be in a home with loving parents that you humbly and lovingly chose for them. However, it is important to note that choosing a fully closed adoption is not something that adoptive parents typically desire for their potential children. As the world develops, it has become increasingly difficult for close adoptions to stay closed forever due to DNA tests and the internet. Additionally, children who are part of a closed adoption may feel a sense of restlessness and a strong desire to meet their birth mother, which may cause them to obsess over figuring out where they were originally from. Ultimately, semi-open adoptions are an easier route for birth mothers, adoptive parents, and adoptees because it leaves no room for confusion and secrecy while maintaining some privacy.
Can I Reverse My Decision to Have A Closed Adoption?
If you choose the route of closed adoption and regret your decision later, it is unlikely that there will be much you can do to change it. The agreement on the type of adoption that you came to with the adoptive parents and changing this would be disruptive to your child’s life and family. This is why it is so important to think about the future when deciding your adoption plan. Maybe you fear it would be too difficult to try and stay connected with your child after their placement. However, choosing to go the route of open or semi-open adoption is a great way to maintain an open line of communication with your child that can be as involved as you would like it to be. It is possible to stay connected with your child as they grow up and see the type of person they are becoming. This could be a very redeeming and encouraging thing to witness as their birth mother.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
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