Will I Feel Guilty if I Place My Baby For Adoption?

By Charley Lustig

Bringing a child into the world brings more into your life than just a new, little life—one of which is feelings. To say there are many feelings involved is an understatement. You might cry because no more ice cream is in the fridge. Or the sound of your alarm in the morning might fill you with rage and turn you into an agitated hornet. But there are even more when giving your baby up for adoption. So how will you feel? How do you cope? Who can help you? Adoption Choices of Texas can guide you through these emotions and answer your questions. 

If you need help with adoption now, you can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here.

How Can I Expect To Feel When Placing My Baby Up For Adoption?

It’s important to remember that like every situation leading towards adoption differs, the same goes for how women will feel. Birth mothers going through local adoption agencies may share an agency, but their stories range. Adoption Choices of Texas has years of experience collaborating with many mothers who have decided adoption. Here are some of the many emotions that they have felt in the process.

• Guilt
• Fear
• Relief 
• Sadness
• Denial 
• Hope 

You find yourself feeling any one of these emotions right now. Allowing yourself to feel these emotions is important fully. You have every right to feel every single one. But it is critical that you do not allow yourself to drown in one emotion or all. Acknowledge the feeling, understand the emotion if you’re able to, and move forward. You’ve chosen adoption because you believe it will be the most successful course of action- for you and your child. 

How Can I Cope With These Feelings As a Birth Mother? 

Sometimes these feelings may only last a matter of seconds. Other times, they can feel like powerful waves crashing upon you, wearing you down every day. At Adoption Choices of Texas, we prioritize the well-being of birth mothers and their children. Therefore, our local adoption agencies offer many services to help guide you through any emotional turmoil. It doesn’t matter if you choose adoption in Dallas or in San Antonio. We provide free counseling.

You will be given an experienced, professional adoption counselor at any of our adoption agencies. They are not just there to help you create an adoption plan. Our counselors are there for any support you need. They will listen, advise, and help in any way they are able to. You are not the first mother they have guided on this journey, nor will you be the last—their familiarity with birth mothers and their common feelings. 

Even as the adoption process comes to a close, you are not alone. Our support goes out to birth mothers long after giving up their baby for adoption. Adoption Choices of Texas has created a community for birth mothers. As a result, you have the opportunity to connect with other birth mothers. Becoming pregnant and even recovering afterward can be lonely. Making friends who understand where you are is important. 

Who Can Help Birth Mothers With Their Emotions?

Giving up your baby is hard. Adoption Choices of Texas offers numerous ways to help, as stated previously. Yet, support can come from anyone and everyone. Who you involve in your baby’s adoption is solely your decision. If help looks like talking to your present friends, family, or birth father, reach out to them! Having someone to listen to how you are feeling is so important and a great coping mechanism. By getting these feelings off your chest, you have the opportunity to set them free. 

Taking Action For Your Mental Health and Adoption Process

After reading this, you may find yourself relieved that you are not alone. You may feel more comfortable in considering adoption. Even if you are unsure of adoption but would like more information, reach out to Adoption Choices of Texas! 

No one should guilt you into choosing adoption, nor should you guilt yourself for it. This is purely your decision. It is hard, but it is important to be aware of your needs and your baby’s. With that, there is no obligation when asking for more information or even beginning the process. 

As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!

Adoption Choices of Texas es la única agencia de adopción con servicios completamente en esapñol en el estado de Texas. Si está embarazada y necesita ayuda, llámenos o envíenos un mensaje de texto y uno de nuestros especialistas en adopción podrá ayudarlo. Podemos ayudarte con la adopcion de niños. Para obtener más información sobre el proceso de adopción como una mujer embarazada o una madre biológica, comuníquese con Adoption Choices of Texas. Para español llamar: 888-510-5029