Ways to Bond with Your Child’s Adoptive Parents in an Open Adoption
If you are considering placing your child for adoption, specifically an open adoption, you may have a few concerns about building a connection with the new family. While every adoption and situation is unique, there are a few tried and true techniques that can help you build a lasting relationship. Down below we will go over a few of the best ways to go about building that relationship, as well as answer a few questions that you might have.
Keep in mind that you will not have to do this on your own, and that a social worker will be with you throughout the entire adoption process. They will be able to help you find the best adoptive family, and also to create the building blocks of a new relationship.
Answering a Few Questions
- How do I get started?
By simply giving us a call at 888-307-3340 we can begin the process or answer any specific questions that you might have. There are no obligations, and we are available 24/7 to provide support.
- What is an open adoption?
An open adoption means that you, as the birth mother, can maintain communication with your child, your child’s adoptive family, or both. In other words, it’s an adoption agreement that allows you to be a part of your child’s life post adoption. If this is something you’d like to learn about further, be sure to consult with your adoption caseworker.
- How will I know the adoptive family is right for my child?
The adoption process. is very involved, and you will be making all of the decisions. You will be able to review adoptive families through profile photo books your adoption caseworker will provide until you decide on the best fit. Nothing will be done without your permission.
5 Best Ways to Develop a Lasting Relationship with Your Child’s Adoptive Family
- Start communicating early
While you will be able to meet with the adoptive family beforehand, continuing the conversation outside of the initial introduction can really help cement a growing relationship. Simply emailing one another, calling or meeting face to face has a very beneficial impact.
- Keep the adoptive family updated
Sending updates about your child and special occasions will help your child’s adoptive family feel involved, and allow them to learn more about you and your child.
- Try to be open to your child’s adoptive parent’s suggestions
Even if you don’t agree with all of them, just giving your child’s adoptive parents the chance to contribute to the conversation will mean the world. Allowing the couple or individual to express themselves also gives you a bit more insight into what their life is like!
- Stay in touch post adoption
Once your child is a part of their new family, reach out to the adoptive parents. The more communicative that you are, the stronger your bond with your child’s adoptive parents will grow.
- Recognize that they are going through a big change too
Acknowledging the effort that your child’s adoptive parents are putting in will not only help them to feel appreciated, but also help them view the process from your perspective as well. Working together to find solutions is one of the key components of every relationship!
Things to Keep In Mind
Regardless of your situation and the adoptive family you choose, every adoption has its ups and downs. Taking the time to communicate effectively and often with the adoptive parents will make it easier for everyone involved, and make the adoption journey run more smoothly overall. Taking as much time as you need to develop the perfect adoption plan for you, your child and the new adoptive family will help ensure that the bond between everyone lasts a lifetime.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
Meet the Author: Elijah Weiner is currently studying English and East Asian Studies at Denison University, and spends the majority of his free time reading a good science fiction book. His interest has always been in fiction, so whether he is reading or writing it is always based upon the imaginary world.
Elijah lives in Boulder, Co and spends his free time reading or bicycling outdoors.