What is The Permanency of Placing My Child For Adoption?
By Gabriella Dobson
Whether it is planned or not, you have options when you become pregnant. You have three to be exact: parent your child, terminate your pregnancy, or place your child for adoption. There is no correct or incorrect answer when it comes to this type of decision. It is all up to you and your current situation and how you see fit. Do not worry about what others are doing or what others might think of what you do. They do not know what is going on in your life, and you have to decide what will benefit you.
If you choose the adoption route, knowing what you are getting yourself into is essential. You will need to make a lot more decisions and possibly hard ones. But do not worry about that either. At Adoption Choices of Texas, we can help you throughout the way and answer any questions you might have. The biggest thing you need to know as a birth mother is that it is final after your child is placed with their adoptive family and you have signed all the papers. There is no turning back or taking back your child. You can change your mind until the very last papers are signed.
The Adoption Process and the Permanency of Adoption
We understand adoption can be scary and might not be for everyone, but it is a smart, mature, and loving decision any birth mother could make on behalf of their child. Adoption is a choice made by a mother who cares, a mother who loves their child, and would go to the ends of the Earth for them. Do not let anyone try to tell you that you are making the wrong choice or that your child might grow up feeling resentful because it is, in fact, the opposite. They will know the sacrifices you made to ensure they lived a good and fulfilling life. You still have the option to know your child and be in their lives if that is something you want after they are placed with their adoptive family.
The only possible downside to the adoption process is that it is permanent. However, in most states, adoption laws state that consent may be revoked before adoption finalization, based on the circumstance. For example, if a birth mother consents to adoption under duress or fraud and adoption may be revoked. To learn more about adoption laws speak to your adoption specialist or legal adviser.
This might seem like something that everyone should know, but we get a lot of questions regarding the permanency of adoption. Not everyone likes change, and some people might have more difficulty adjusting than others. Adoption is a massive change for a birth mother, so we understand if you need extra time to think further about what you are doing. But just know you are not alone in this journey and that you always have us in your corner.
How Involved Can I Be in My Child’s Life?
One other question we get a lot is about the openness of adoption. The different types of adoption include open, semi-open, and closed. With a closed adoption, you will not have the ability to be in your child’s life as you will not know anything about the adoptive family, and they will don’t know anything about you. As for semi-open and open, you can be as involved as possible. You can exchange pictures and letters, etc. However, the main difference between the two is that it is open communication in a fully open adoption. This means that you can have phone calls, in-person visits, and more. It all depends on the level of comforts you feel, and you will want to choose an adoptive family that feels the same way. You select the level of openness, and we find you a family that matches your preferences.
What to Expect about the Permanency of Adoption?
It might not feel like it, but you are still a mother and have a child. You just will not be the one parenting them, and there is no shame in that. You can still want to connect with them and still love them. Adoption is a selfless decision and brings joy to a new family and relief into your own. Whatever your reason for adoption is, it is probably because you want to see your child thrive in life, and we at Adoption Choices of Texas want to help you.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
Adoption Choices of Texas es la única agencia de adopción con servicios completamente en esapñol en el estado de Texas. Si está embarazada y necesita ayuda, llámenos o envíenos un mensaje de texto y uno de nuestros especialistas en adopción podrá ayudarlo. Podemos ayudarte con la adopcion de niños. Para obtener más información sobre el proceso de adopción como una mujer embarazada o una madre biológica, comuníquese con Adoption Choices of Texas. Para español llamar: 888-510-5029