Rebekah’s Story: A Birth Mother’s Perspective of Adoption
Rebekah’s Adoption Story
Rebekah Anselmo is a divorced single mother with two daughters living in Texas. Following her divorce, Rebekah knew that when she started dating again, she would place her baby for adoption if she ever got pregnant. With balancing co-parenting with her ex, and barely meeting ends meet, adding another child to the mix was just too much. Therefore, when she discovered she was pregnant, Rebekah knew what she was going to do.
Rebekah began to consider what she wanted for her adoption journey and for her baby’s future. While she knew from the very beginning that she wanted an open adoption, she still had to figure out other elements of her adoption plan. After she eventually told her daughters, they all worked on a list of the qualities they wanted for the baby’s adoptive family. Together, they decided they wanted the baby to be raised by a Texas family that already had children. They also wanted to visit with the baby at least three times a year. The adoption agencies she had been talking to presented her with a large number of possible adoptive families, but she didn’t love any of them. So, she turned to an expectant moms group on Facebook and explained her situation. Rebekah was then able to find an initial match and, after a long journey of ups and downs, was led to the right adoptive family for her baby.
Rebekah’s Journey to the Adoptive Parents
While Rebekah has a great adoption situation now, the road to get there was rocky.
When she created her adoption plan and waited for her baby to be born, Rebekah kept her pregnancy a secret from her friends and family (other than her best friend). Her baby daddy didn’t understand adoption, and she was afraid that her family would judge her decision. Additionally, the first family she found on Facebook was not the adoptive family that would eventually raise her baby. There was a long period of uncertainty and a few different adoptive families before she found the right match.
Now, however, Rebekah and her daughters get to see the baby at least six times a year and are in a better situation. Rebekah is in a healthy relationship and is expecting another baby with her partner. She admits that, yes, her adoption journey was tough, but if she hadn’t placed her baby for adoption, then her family wouldn’t be where they are today.
A Note from Adoption Choices of Texas
Not every adoption journey is smooth sailing, and not every woman chooses to work with an adoption agency. However, if you choose to work with Adoption Choices of Texas, we promise to make sure that your adoption journey goes as smoothly as possible and that you feel in control.
Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore digital media major at North Greenville University. She loves writing and hopes to pursue a career in journalism or public relations after graduating.
An adoptee herself, Grace is passionate about writing for adoption. She especially loves hearing adoption stories and getting to know a variety of people.