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Life for Birth Parents After Adoption

By Kaitlyn Chrisemer

When you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant, you’re faced with many decisions. Especially in Texas, adoption is the main unplanned pregnancy option. So many aspects can contribute to your adoption plan and make it unique to you. Because there are so many pregnant adoption options, every birth mother’s adoption journey is different and specific to her. 

Similarly, the post-adoption journey is different for every birth parent as well. If you’re unsure what to expect after your adoption in Houston, we’d like to help guide you. Adoption Choices of Texas can give you the information you need to get back to life after your adoption is finalized. 

We know that putting a baby up for adoption can be an emotionally taxing decision. After the adoption is finalized, you’ll finally have more time to breathe and reflect. However, this reflection can also bring some negative feelings to the surface. Adoption Choices of Texas has the resources to help you at any point in your adoption journey.

If you need help with adoption now, you can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here.

Post-Adoption Placement Grief

If you’re feeling negative emotions after your baby has been placed for adoption, don’t worry. These feelings are normal, even though they can be painful. It’s important to feel everything you need openly without bottling up or denying your feelings. Forcing yourself to reject any negative feelings you may have can damage your mental health. 

Many birth parents will feel a sense of grief after the adoption is finalized and the process is over. However, you can both feel this grief and accept your decision. Having these feelings doesn’t mean you regret your choice to place your child for adoption. It just means that you are going through the process of grieving your child. 

Since adoption is a decision birth parents make out of love and caring for their child, grief is normal. In a sense, saying goodbye to the baby after birth is like losing a loved one. During these difficult times, try to remember why you made this decision. You felt the baby could have a better life with a different family. Remember that your baby will be able to have an amazing, love-filled life because you could make this selfless choice. 

Adoption Counseling and Support Groups

If you feel that you need professional help, Adoption Choices of Texas can help. If you search for adoption centers near you, you’ll be able to find us and our resources. We offer to counsel post-adoption and can connect you with a counselor to help. They can talk through your feelings with you and help you work through these emotions. 

We can also connect you with a support group if you feel that would be helpful. Sometimes seeing and hearing from others who have had similar experiences can help. You can see that you aren’t alone in your experience and that your feelings are normal. 

Having a Family Later in Life After Adoption

Another aspect that can be stressful for birth parents is considering having a family later in life. Some birth parents can feel extreme guilt when they consider having a family down the line. They feel that they gave up on the child they placed for adoption. However, there are different stages in life when you’re ready or not ready for certain changes. Sometimes at the time of pregnancy, birth parents aren’t ready to raise a child even though they want children. 

This situation is a difficult one but more common than you may think. Many people who choose to place a baby for adoption do want a family later in life, just not yet. It can be difficult to make this decision and live with it after the fact if you want children. Many birth parents who want a family eventually struggle with this. 

Adoption Choices of Texas wants to ensure that you know it’s okay to have a family after the adoption. Don’t feel bad about having a family of your own. Placing a baby for adoption isn’t a show of who worthy you are to be a parent in the future. Circumstances and life situations change constantly. Just because you weren’t ready to be a parent when you experienced an unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean you’ll never be ready. 

Moving On After Adoption Finalization

If you’re looking for help with your adoption in Houston, at any stage, Adoption Choices of Texas can help. We also offer our services to Spanish-speaking birth mothers seeking help with “adoption en Texas.” We’re here for you if you need help with any portion of your adoption process in Texas. 

As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!

Adoption Choices of Texas es la única agencia de adopción con servicios completamente en esapñol en el estado de Texas. Si está embarazada y necesita ayuda, llámenos o envíenos un mensaje de texto y uno de nuestros especialistas en adopción podrá ayudarlo. Podemos ayudarte con la adopcion de niños. Para obtener más información sobre el proceso de adopción como una mujer embarazada o una madre biológica, comuníquese con Adoption Choices of Texas. Para español llamar: 888-510-5029

We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!

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