It’s Always Best To Have A Plan: The Differences between a Baby Safe Haven and an Adoption Plan
Getting pregnant unexpectedly can put a lot of your life plans on hold. You may have so many thoughts racing through your head from wondering about how you are going to afford a baby to what’s going to happen after your baby has arrived. There are many options available. From keeping the baby to a baby drop-off in a safe location, to placing the baby for adoption — just to name a few.
Adoption Choices of Texas is here to help you explore these options, starting with the differences between a baby safe haven and an adoption plan.
Baby Safe Haven
To begin, what is a baby safe haven? A baby safe haven is a place where you can leave your baby and walk away. You have probably seen these many times in movies — a baby is left in a basket on a doorstep with the birth mother running off into the night, never to be seen again. Now, while you cannot abandon your baby, you can legally leave them at designated safe places. Some baby safe havens include, but are not limited to: churches, hospitals and police stations. Adoption Choices of Texas is another baby safe haven location.
Now, why would this not be recommended? One reason is that it is not a controlled environment. Anything can happen in the moment between you leaving your baby to someone discovering them. This can be extremely traumatic for your baby as they grow older. One reason is because it leaves them without answers.
They don’t know why they were left in a safe haven and have no information about you as they grow up. Even if it is a very safe place like a hospital or a police station, there is still that sense of abandonment. They go to a doctor’s office for a problem, but have no answers on their medical histories, so both the child and the doctor are navigating in the dark.
It’s not going to be just the baby who has questions — you will too. Maybe that first week you will have a breath of relief, your body is yours again. However, in time, you may start wondering what happened to your baby. Were they adopted by a loving family? If so, how is that family treating them? If not, are they still waiting? Who is taking care of them in the meantime? You have no way of getting any of those answers, which can haunt you for a very long time.
An adoption plan is where you and an agency, like Adoption Choices of Texas for example, come up with a plan. You are in control of the plan. This is very important, as having control over your situation reduces a lot of stress and issues that can damage both you and your child in the long run.
A big reason to choose to go with an adoption plan is the support system you receive. Not only do you have the adoption agency to turn to for help and support, but you also have the adoptive parents that you choose. The saying ‘It takes a village to raise a child’ is true, even when it comes to before the child even arrives. It is possible to do pregnancy alone — many women have and there are many amazing single mothers out there. Yet, they usually still have the support of their friends and family.
Adoption plans may seem scary because your first thought might be that, ‘Oh, all I am is a baby machine to them,’ but that is just not true. You have the most control in an adoption plan with the added bonus of a support group and resources. No matter what type of adoption you choose, your support group and resources are still there. Even better, your child gets access to those resources and support groups, as well future information they may need.
The Differences between a Baby Safe Haven and an Adoption Plan
A baby safe haven is like trying to fight a war alone. Many women who choose to go the baby safe haven route want to hide their pregnancies. Yet, as a result, they have no support and too often suffer alone. Pregnancy, especially an unplanned one, is physically one of the hardest things any woman’s body will go through. Please don’t put yourself through that mental isolation and stress.
An adoption plan takes a lot of that weight and stress off you and gives you more control over your situation, as well as access to the resources you may need. Keep in mind that the adoption plan isn’t for the adoption agency, the adoptive parents or even the baby. It’s for you. It’s there so you have a set plan that will take away your worry about your child’s wellbeing and allow you to healthfull move forward in your life.
Your health and safety, and that of your baby’s, is our top priority. Through creating an adoption plan, both of you can be well taken care of. Your baby will have the best chance at life, and you will be able to watch them grow into the healthy, happy and independent adult they are meant to be.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
Meet the Author:Courtney Moore was born in Huntington Beach, California. She is currently attending college for English with a minor in History. Her love for writing started at the age of 11 when she won a class competition for a personification of candy in a short story. In her junior year of high school, she was an editor for her school’s literary magazine. In her senior year of high school, her then English teacher told her that she should pursue a career as a literary scholar. The main reason she decided to not pursue that path is that her passions lied more in the creation of writings than the review of it.
She currently lives in Las Vegas with her very spoiled cat Abby, who she happily adopted from the local animal shelter. Courtney has been a supporter of animal adoptions her whole life.
Her interest in child adoptions began at the age of 14. It was at that age that she learned of how many children were in the foster system. Her own childhood was very unstable; however, she was able to stay with at least one of her parents for a majority of it. As she got older, her interests in adoptions grew. Her hopes are that, one day, the foster care system is fixed and is treated as it should be.