If I Already Have Kids, Can I Still Place a Baby for Adoption?

By Kaitlyn Chrisemer

Sometimes you’re going along with your life perfectly happy, and when life throws you a curveball. For example, maybe you’re an unexpectedly pregnant woman who’s already a proud mother with her hands full. If you have children already but are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may feel panicked. Raising children is no easy job, and you might not be ready to raise another kid. 

Adoption Choices of Texas can help. We work with all different kinds of birth mothers at our adoption agencies. If you want help planning an adoption for your baby, let us know. Don’t discount adoption as an unplanned pregnancy option just because you’re already a mother. Any woman experiencing an unexpected pregnancy can feel comfortable choosing adoption with our agencies. 

If you need help with adoption now, you can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here.

Why Choose Adoption as a Second-, Third-, etc.- Time Mom?

Especially if you are already booked and overwhelmed with the children you’re currently raising, you might want to consider adoption. Even if you’re simply not at a place in your personal life to start raising a baby again, that’s okay. For example, maybe you’ve just started refocusing on your career. No matter what the reason, considering adoption when you already have kids doesn’t make you a bad mother. 

Will My Kids Be Taken?

No, your children will not be taken from you. We understand that you may be nervous about the consequences of placing a new baby for adoption. Our adoption agencies want to reassure you that placing a baby for adoption won’t place your kids at risk. Do not worry about the futures of your other children. This decision will not put them in danger of losing you. 

Explaining the Adoption Process to Children

It may be intimidating to sit down and explain adoption to your children. They may be confused about the pregnancy and the adoption process. However, sitting down to talk it through with them will help. You can get books, show videos, or even talk about what will happen to the new baby. 

Make sure your children understand adoption and why this baby will live with a different family. It’s important that your kids understand this is a decision from love and it’ll be best for the baby. There is a possibility that without this understanding, they’ll fear being sent away. Also, if they misunderstand your intentions and reasoning, it could make them think you might give them away too. 

This means it’s important to ensure they don’t feel threatened by the adoption process. Through information and conversations with you, they shouldn’t feel scared once they understand adoption is best for the new baby. 

You may also want to consider an open adoption if it would benefit your children. For example, they may feel attached to the baby and want to see them with the adoptive family. Of course, it’s understandable if you’re uncomfortable with open adoption. However, for your children’s sake, you may consider it if you think it will help. 

Dealing with Outside Judgment

Some people in your life may be uncomfortable with your decision to place a baby for adoption. They may think you have no reason to since you already have children. Remember that you need to do what you think is best for you and the baby. Although they may love you and want the best for you, only you can truly know what that is. They may disagree with your decision, but if you know it’s right for you, don’t let their judgment deter you. Hopefully, throughout the process, they will come to understand your reasoning and accept your choices. 

Adoption Choices of Texas can Help

If you’re looking for an adoption agency to work with, Adoption Choices of Texas is here! We can help you make an adoption plan, give you advice on how to talk to your kids, and more. Even if you’re just looking for some information, we are happy to help. We have agency sites in Dallas, Houston, Austin, and San Antonio. We can even help with adoptions outside of Texas. We have the resources to help you with what you need. 

As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 945-444-0333, text us at 945-444-0333, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here.

Adoption Choices of Texas es la única agencia de adopción con servicios completamente en esapñol en el estado de Texas. Si está embarazada y necesita ayuda, llámenos o envíenos un mensaje de texto y uno de nuestros especialistas en adopción podrá ayudarlo. Podemos ayudarte con la adopcion de niños. Para obtener más información sobre el proceso de adopción como una mujer embarazada o una madre biológica, comuníquese con Adoption Choices of Texas. Para español llamar: 888-510-5029

We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!