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How do you select the perfect family for your child when there are so many amazing families to choose from?

We’ve compiled a list of helpful steps to assist in your decision making process!

1 – Make a List

Seems so simple, right? Many birth parents find this simple and useful way to filter potential families.

Start with the non-negotiables: the things that are extremely important to you. Do you want an open adoption? Do you want your child raised in a religious home? Do you want them to be a first or only child? Whatever it may be, list these things first.

Next, make a list of the less vital things. Would you like them to be raised in a certain area? Would you like them to have certain family traditions? Would you like them to have interests similar to yours? These are the things that you would like a potential family to have, but wouldn’t be “deal breakers” – you’d still consider a family without these characteristics.

Once you have made your list, you can narrow down your search!

2 – Follow Your Instincts

Even though a list can be extremely helpful, a lot of birth parents still like to follow their heart while making this decision. You will quickly find that this logical decision also becomes a very emotional decision. You will have feelings over whether a family is right or wrong for your child and possibly with no explanation. Follow your gut. Eventually, you will find a sense of comfort and peace with a family. You may find a family that you know without a doubt is meant to raise your child, even if they don’t measure up to your list. Trust that feeling and follow what feels right.

You may second guess yourself; we all know following your gut can be hard, so don’t be afraid to meet with or speak with different couples, which leads us to our next suggestion…

3 – Make Real Life Connections

Meeting or speaking with several families is okay! This can be a good way to compare and see what feels good and what doesn’t. Having a connection with the family is so important! You may think the family is a good match, but when you meet or speak with them, the feeling may not be as strong as you hoped. This may be discouraging, but don’t let it get you down. There is a perfect match out there for you and your child.

When meeting with potential adoptive parents, ask questions! Find out what their values are, what their hobbies are, how they plan to raise your child. This is the perfect opportunity to learn more about them and make sure it is a good fit.

Make sure you find a family you have a strong connection with. If at any point during the process you start to feel uncomfortable with your choice or you think they may not be the right fit for you and your child, you have the right to choose a different family!

4 – Take Your Time

There is no rush in selecting a family. This a huge decision and one you should not make lightly. Take your time, think it over, and do what feels right.

If at any point you start to feel overwhelmed, take a break. Do not let others influence you in this decision or make you feel rushed to pick a family. You have every right to make this decision as quickly or as slowly as you would like.

Remember, this is your child’s future and you have been given the opportunity to hand-select the perfect family for them.

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