How Birth Parents can Manage Emotional Holidays through Adoption Choices of Texas
By Jessica Hall
Holidays are meant to be spent with family, but some will be thinking of the ones that can’t be there. At a time when many people are cheerful, others are grieving. This swirling of emotions can be confusing, especially for birth mothers who have or are putting their baby up for adoption. Whether you went through the adoption process years ago, are currently going through one, or are planning for one in the near future, Adoption Choices of Texas understands this can be a difficult time for birth parents. Continue reading to understand the moments of grief, joy, and support birth parents may experience and find.
Adoption during the holidays may bring some grief
Normal holiday moments may become a source of unexpected feelings. For instance, family members who bring their children to enjoy the holiday together. It may hurt watching the kids excitedly rip open presents and scream with joy as they pull out a toy. Many birth mothers grieve the loss of this experience and reminisce on what could have been. They think about the family traditions they might not ever share. The gifts they may never give. It may also be a time of financial burdens. This might be a reminder for some birth mothers of the reason they couldn’t keep their birth child.
It’s important for birth parents to remember the reasons they chose adoption for the little one. And while they are going through the adoption process, it’s vital to choose the right adoption plan. Choosing the plan that best fits your adoption wishlist will help you avoid future remorse.
Adoption agencies can help you find joy
There are ways birth mothers can manage these moments of feeling down and even turn them into moments of joy. For many, private adoption in Texas is an incredible way to maintain a relationship with the child. By choosing an open adoption through a private agency, the birth parents are able to keep in contact with the child. During the holidays, this can be incredibly helpful. Depending on the adoption, birth parents can make calls, send gifts, or sometimes have in-person visits. Having some sort of check-in to see the child happy in a loving home will help ease any grief. And remind you that you made a choice for the benefit of the child.
If you choose to have a closed adoption with no contact with the child, you can still remind yourself of the reasons you chose adoption. Remember that you chose the family in hopes of the child having an incredible life full of love and happiness. You can also find little ways to honor the child. Making custom ornaments to hang on a tree or lighting a candle for them are both great ways to acknowledge your feelings. And hopefully, to find joy.
Our Texas adoption agency is there for you to lean on
Your adoption center isn’t just a source for adoption info. It’s a place to find understanding. There’s absolutely no reason you have to go through these feelings alone. Be open and honest about the way you’re feeling, good or bad. Suppressing your emotions won’t be beneficial. They’ll bottle up and explode in unfortunate ways. Your adoption specialist should be a person you look to as a foundation to lean on. As someone who can offer advice based on years of experience. Or even as a place where you can find commonality with other birth parents through support groups. We have many private adoption agencies around Texas that offer a variety of services. Whether you’re seeking an Austin adoption or an adoption in San Antonio TX, you’ll always get 100% free and confidential support.
As previously mentioned, financial struggles can also be something that brings you down during the holiday season. Texas adoption agencies are a place where eligible birth parents can find financial support for necessities. Qualifying necessities include bills, rent, clothing, and even medical bills. Many birth mothers find medical support incredibly helpful during pregnancy and, in some cases, after. But if you prefer not to go to a doctor, no prenatal care adoption is still an option.
Get assistance starting the adoption process in Texas
Moments of grief will come, but remember the moments of joy will too. You need to embrace where you are at in your healing. Celebrate the happy moments and be kind to yourself when you’re down. You’re not alone. Adoption Choices of Texas is always there for you. We go above and beyond to ensure you have the support and adoption info you need as a birth parent, especially during the holiday season.
Now is the perfect time to get the help you desire. As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here.
We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!