Dealing With Being Unexpectedly Pregnant in Texas
Meet Mia. Mia is your average senior in high school. She loves watching 80’s rom-coms, listening to punk rock, and most of all, her boyfriend, Jackson. Her life was pretty normal until she woke up one morning feeling immensely nauseous. At first, she just brushed it off as last night’s fish tacos, not agreeing with her, but when nausea came back the next day, and the day after that, she knew something was up. Still thinking it was a stomach bug, Mia decided to visit her primary doctor just to be safe, where she heard the two words most teen girls dread, “you’re pregnant.” Yep. Mia was unexpectedly pregnant. It turned out that she probably should have been a bit more insistent that Jackson use a condom. However, the past is in the past, and now she realizes she has to figure out what to do next. She fully understood that there was a range of possibilities before her, and she had to consider each one. Not knowing where to begin her research, Mia looked up “unplanned pregnancy help” on Google and found Adoption Choices of Texas almost immediately. Hoping they could help her, Mia called the agency and was able to set up an appointment with a private adoption specialist to discuss her options the following day.
Discussing Her Options With Adoption Choices of Texas
At the meeting, Gail, the adoption specialist, explained that Mia had three options of how she could proceed with her pregnancy and subsequent birth. “The first possibility,” Gail said, “is to look into terminating your pregnancy.” She explained that, while this is something Mia could look into with guidance from Adoption Choices of Texas, Texas laws made it difficult for Mia to seek termination.
Although Mia was eligible to terminate her pregnancy because she had only been pregnant for about three weeks, the nearest clinic was three counties over. Mia determined that there was no way that she would be able to terminate the pregnancy under the six-week mark, after which termination is banned in Texas. Plus, her mother was not supportive of termination, and seeing as Mia was eight months from her eighteenth birthday, she would not be able to receive the legal permits needed to complete the procedure. Thus, both Mia and Gail agreed that terminating the pregnancy was not the best option in this case.
Gail proceeded to suggest that Mia might look to raise the child herself. Mia said, “Although I would love to be a part of the baby’s life, I am set to start college in a few months and would not be able to complete my degree and care for a child. There simply is not enough time to study, take classes, and worry about a baby. I am worried enough about being independent on campus and taking care of myself. Gail completely understood the teen’s concerns and proceeded to ask if the father or any other relative would be able to provide for the baby. Mia explained that after finding out that she was pregnant, she quickly called Jackson to share the news. “He was really scared and said that he was too young to be a dad. He hasn’t even replied to any of my calls or texts since then.” Gail sympathized and explained that teen pregnancy could be scary for both parties, especially if they had no intention of becoming a parent so young. Mia agreed. “What about your parents or other family members?” Gail said. Mia explained, “Both of my parents work full time and are barely home for four hours each day. I discussed the matter with them, and they both agreed that there was no way they would be able to care for a baby. In regards to other family members, most of my extended relatives, like my grandparents and cousins, live in New York, where both my parents were raised. Many of them have children of their own or do not have the resources to care for one.” Gail suggested that it seemed like raising the child was not a possibility, and Mia agreed.
“That leaves one main option,” Gail noted, “Adoption.” Mia seemed interested, saying, “Tell me more.” The adoptive specialist explained that for those who are unable to raise a child or are not eligible to terminate the unexpected pregnancy, adoption is often the best choice. “And you seem to be in the perfect place for adoption,” she explained. “You are early enough when you are unexpectedly pregnant journey to start planning for a San Antonio adoption now and have everything squared away just in time.
You also mentioned that you wanted to be a part of the child’s life. That sounds like you would be perfect for open adoption. With open adoption, you would be able to receive periodic updates from the adoptive parents. These updates can take the form of photos or even written descriptions. With this, you will be able to keep up to date on your child without having to worry about childcare.” Mia smiled. “That would be lovely! What about the adoption process? I am still a student who does not have a lot of time outside of school. Will I be able to properly place my child up for adoption?” “Absolutely,” said Gail. “The process is so simple that you will be able to balance it and your studies. Plus, you will have my colleagues and me at Adoption Choices of Texas to help you every step of the way.”
“That sounds amazing. But what about Jackson? He does not seem to want anything to do with me or our child.” “While you might be able to push to obtain full custody over the child and the decisions concerning them, it would be much easier to have Jackson be involved in the adoption process. I would give him some time for the news to settle in and for his nerves to calm. After all, this is shocking for both of you. Then when you feel the time is right, approach him with the topic of adoption. If he seems confused or hesitant, offer to join him in a meeting just like this one to learn more about it. I bet after some time and the right information, and he will come around.” “I think you might be right,” said Mia. “I think adoption is the perfect option for me.”
Moving Forward With Mia Being Unexpectedly Pregnant and Her Adoption Process
After their meeting, Mia and Gail worked to start the Texas adoption process. As Gail predicted, Jackson eventually opened up to the idea of adoption and supported Mia through the journey. Together the teen and adoption specialist found the perfect adoptive family, made a hospital plan, and even helped Mia get financial assistance for the adoption. Mia was able to easily balance the adoption process with the school, and when the day came to place her baby boy, she felt confident knowing that her decision would allow all parties involved to have a bright and open future. Mia has since graduated from Baylor University with a degree in Social Work and would love to one day become an adoptive specialist herself. As for her son, his adoptive family named him Oliver, and he is in a loving home that sends plenty of photos to Mia each year. I guess you could say that everyone got their fairy tale ending. To start the path to your “happily ever after,” call Adoption Choices of Texas today!
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
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Meet the Author: Peter is a writer and editor based in New York. Currently studying at Binghamton University, Peter is majoring in English Literature and Rhetoric. Whether working with Marketing Choices or the mental health blog, Runaway, Peter seeks to provide comfort and warmth to those around him through his writing. A huge advocate for change, Peter looks to promote adoption, mental health awareness, disability awareness, and environmental improvement. Forever looking to make meaningful connections, Peter can be found with a group of friends or going on walks and waving to anyone he passes.