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5 Common Myths Regarding Open Adoption (And Why They Are Unfounded)

By Isabella Lamberson

We at Adoption Choices of Texas are here to support you and provide adoption services at your disposal. If you are considering adoption (adopción de babes), you are likely experiencing numerous concerns for yourself and your child. You may be considering an open adoption to maintain contact with your child and their adoptive family. 

If you’re looking into this route, you may have also heard myths regarding the adoption process for an open adoption. No matter which type of adoption you choose, there will be different voices trying to stain your view of adoption. However, many of these voices stem from misinformation about adoption’s long-term effectiveness, which can create doubt. Adoption Choices of Texas is here to help calm these fears and clear up these misconceptions.

5 Common Misconceptions Concerning Open Adoption

1. Your Baby Will Think You’re a Bad Mother

This is most definitely a valid concern shared by many birth mothers as they consider adoption—you are not alone! One benefit of an open adoption lies in the connection you will be able to maintain with your child. By prioritizing your child’s needs, with age and maturity, they will come to understand the decision you made. An open adoption enables you to explain this to your child while remaining present in their life. It should not be understood that you are simply giving your baby up for adoption due to an unplanned pregnancy. You are allowing your child to have a fulfilling life, and there is beauty in that. 

2. Your Baby Will Feel Caught Between You and the Adoptive Parents

Step 6 of the adoption plan at our adoption center involves selecting the adoptive family. You are able to choose who your child ends up with and form a lasting, healthy relationship with them. There should be a mutual understanding between you and the adoptive parents about everyone’s part to play in the future. With this understanding established, your child should never feel this kind of pull either way. By formulating helpful boundaries, your child will recognize the respective values in your role and that of their adoptive parents. This wonderful aspect of open adoption enables you to keep in contact with the adoptive family so everyone feels included. 

3. Open Adoption is Actually Co-Parenting

This is often one of the biggest misunderstandings about open adoption—and understandably so. It’s easy to think that, because you can stay in contact with your child, it is really just co-parenting. However, in an open adoption, parenting responsibilities remain with the adoptive parents. Where co-parenting is the sharing of parental rights; open adoption is the continued contact between you and your child. If you’re worried an open adoption means you will be a third parent, put that fear to rest. You will be able to regulate however much contact you would like with your child.

4. Open Adoption Takes Too Much Work

Adoption agencies in Texas, including our adoption agency in Austin, strive to make open adoption as stress-free as possible. Adoption Choices of Texas is prepared to help you formulate an adoption plan best suited to your goals and lifestyle. Our professional staff will aid your adoption journey every step of the way—from the moment of conception to post-adoption. Our mission is to ensure a smooth transition into adoption and care for you and your child’s needs. We will not leave your side after the adoption. We offer counseling services, should you require them, and will arrange contact between you, your child, and their adoptive family. 

5. Open Adoption Leads to Competition Between the Birth Mother and the Adoptive Parents

The adoption process in Texas is deeply concerned with your and your child’s welfare. This includes the relationship between yourself and the adoptive family with whom you choose to entrust your child. A positive aspect of considering adoption early is that you will have time to get to know the adoptive parents. Be sure to bring up any concerns you have about their role in your and your child’s lives. During the adoption process, healthy boundaries will be established to prevent any kind of competition. At the end of the day, both you and the adoptive parents want what is best for your child. 

The Truth About Open Adoption and Why It May Be Right for You

Regardless of what you decide, it is perfectly natural for you to experience anxiety or fear over the future. Whether you are choosing between the various types of adoption or whether to go the adoption route, fear is normal. That does not mean you have to feel those difficult emotions alone. If you are looking into our adoption services and are interested in maintaining contact with your child, consider open adoption. We at Adoption Choices of Texas know this decision is no small thing. We are more than happy to assist you in any way we can.

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