Common Birth Mother Adoption Fears in Texas
As you begin your journey into your pregnancy and your adoption journey, you may face a lot of challenges. You will have to make a lot of important decisions, deal with the stresses that come with a pregnancy, and maintain your mental well-being to handle it all. All of these things, among other challenges, can cause a specific emotion to be triggered in your brain that can make this difficult time even more challenging. Adoption fears.
While a key part of who we are to keep us safe from danger and harm, fear can also cause us anxiety, depression, and sadness. It is important to remember that any feelings of fear that you may have during this time are not only natural but understandable. You will feel fearful about certain parts of the adoption process because there is a lot to take in. So, this post, along with other resources from Adoption Choices Texas, will better be able to explain common birth mothers’ fears in Texas that you may be experiencing.
Am I Making the Right Choice? Facing Your Adoption Fears
One of the most common fears that birth mothers in Texas feel is whether or not they have made the right decision in choosing to place their child for adoption in Texas. It is an understandable fear to have. Placing a child for adoption is one of the most difficult decisions that anyone can make in their life. Who wouldn’t be worried they are making the right decision?
That being said, it is important to remember that you have not made this decision rashly. Many birth mothers worry that they have made this important decision rashly during a spell of fear, doubt, and uncertainty about the future. When this happens, remember that you have taken every care in the world to make sure you are doing what is right not only for you but your baby as well.
You have had a long time to think it over and ponder all the logistics of adoption. You have had multiple meetings with your adoption specialist and adoption team to make sure you are doing what you truly want to do. You may have even already chosen your baby’s adoptive family and are working with them. You have not made this decision without a lot of time, thoughtfulness, and care.
Will My Baby be Okay?
Another common fear that birth mothers experience is whether their baby will be okay after the adoption is finalized in Texas. This fear usually is aimed towards their baby’s future and questions about what will happen to them. Some of these questions coming from fear and worry could include questions such as: will my decisions hurt them, will the adoptive family take care of them, or did I choose the right adoptive family?
All of these fears, and more, are not only understandable but natural to feel. It is only instinctive for you to have these fears about your baby’s future. You have made this decision out of a place of wanting what is best for your baby. So, of course, you are worried about what their future will bring. However, you must trust your instincts with your decisions.
When it comes to feeling fearful about whether to not you chose the right adoptive family in Texas, remember the long screening process that took place before you made that decision. You looked through many different candidates, but for some reason, you chose one specific adoptive family. Whether or not your child struggles when they eventually learn about your decision to place them for adoption, you just have to trust that they will understand. They will work through whatever they are feeling with the help of their adoptive family that you picked for them.
Will I Ever See My Child Again Once I Place?
Birth mothers in Texas may also fear that they will never see their child again after placing their child for adoption in Texas. They may fear this even if they have arranged for an open or semi-open adoption with their child’s adoptive family. And they fear may make a potential birth mother not want to pursue an adoption further.
Fearing that you will not see your child again is an understandable fear to have. While you may know that parenting is not right for you at this moment or all, that does not mean that you want to cut your child out of your life completely. Even just an updated picture every so often can make all the difference for a birth mother and their emotional well-being.
So, it is only natural for you to fear that even if you agree with an adoptive family to have some kind of contact with your child as they grow, they will not hold up their end of the agreement. You need to remember that you will always have your adoption team at your disposal. If you feel that your child’s adoptive team is not giving you enough contact, or you feel you want to have more contact with your child, your team can help you! Our goal is to make sure that your needs, wishes, and priorities are met.
Common Birth Mother Adoption Fears in Texas
Fear, while an important emotion at times, can be crippling for birth mothers in Texas during their adoption journey. Fears of not making the right decision, fears of their child’s future, and fears of never seeing their child again can cause birth mothers to rethink whether or not adoption is a good idea for them or not.
Most of the time, if these fears are addressed, explained, and empathized with, the fears will fade, and you can feel confident in your decisions. Whatever you decide in your potential adoption journey, just know that the fears you may experience are normal and to be expected. Be open and honest with your adoption team at Adoption Choices of Texas about your fears, worries, and hesitations as you create your adoption plan. They will be able to help your work through what you are feeling and guide you through your fears.
Just remember that no matter what fears your experience, you will not be alone!
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
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