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Choosing Semi-Open Adoption with Adoption Choices of Texas

By Shaina Santagata

When a birth mother faces an unplanned pregnancy, her journey will lead her to consider various options for herself and her baby. At Adoption Choices of Texas, we know first-hand that one of the most common and beautiful decisions occurs when she decides to put her baby up for adoption. This selfless act offers birth mothers the ability to provide an enriching and stable life for their babies with an adoptive family of their choosing. An adoption plan tailored to the birth mother’s wants and desires for her baby’s well-being and future gets set into motion. Followed by her ability to choose how much she wants to be a part of her child’s life after adoption.

A semi-open adoption provides a birth mother with the unique opportunity of still maintaining a connection between herself and her baby. It is a combination of both closed and open adoption. By choosing a semi-open adoption, the birth mother can maintain her need for privacy and comfort based on her situation. She is doing what works best for her, but the door to communication remains open just enough to know her baby is doing well.

What is Semi-Open Adoption, and How Does it Work?

Semi-open adoption allows the birth mother to keep some connection with her child but also prevents too much personal information from being revealed. At Adoption Choices of Texas, our knowledgeable and compassionate team members will assist with handling the interaction, as they will assume the role of mediator between birth mothers and adoptees. By doing so, our adoption agency can ensure that everyone is comfortable with the level of contact involving the child.

The family who adopts the child would receive limited identifying information (e.g., birth parents’ names and addresses). If the birth mother desires future contact with her child, she can do so through letters, photos, or even occasional visits—should that be in agreement with all parties. Semi-open adoption leaves plenty of room for accommodating each birth mother, her comfort levels, and an understanding of her circumstances.

When communicating, some families exchange letters and pictures a few times a year to maintain a connection. In other instances, for birth mothers and the adoptive family, more frequent contact is preferred. This can include occasional visits, phone calls, etc. Whatever the arrangement, it’s crucial that everyone’s needs and wants feel respected. The child can thrive when all adults support each other and the decisions made.

How Does Semi-Open Adoption Benefit My Child?

The best way for semi-open adoption to be successful is to stay flexible and adjust to each other’s needs as the child grows. This part of the adoption process will be an emotional journey for everyone. Remaining empathetic and understanding the dynamic between the birth mother and the adoptive family takes time and a great deal of patience.

When children have a connection to their biological roots, they gain a better understanding of their heritage and personal history. Having their birth mother around gives the child a sense of belonging and can help them manage any questions about their identity. As children grow up, they ask questions, but fewer because they start to understand their adoption more fully. Telling and showing them that they are loved and valued by both their birth mother and adoptive families speaks volumes for the child’s overall well-being.

A crucial thing to remember is that this option offers your child a level of reassurance and support they wouldn’t have otherwise. Knowing their birth mother and how much she cares about them instills confidence and the sense of security that every child needs. The self-confidence they gain as they grow up extends far beyond the boundaries of their immediate family. It is truly an incredible thing!

Am I Making the Right Choice with Putting My Baby Up for Adoption?

We understand you have most likely gone back and forth with making the life-changing decision to put your baby up for adoption. Undoubtedly, this can be a bitter-sweet situation. A birth mother might struggle with uncertainty throughout the adoption process. Many birth mothers have been in your shoes and have felt the same way during their journey. Only you know what is best for you and your baby. We will never force you to choose what that entails. However, we are here to support you in any way we can so you feel you’re making a well-informed decision and can stand firm once you have. 

Our Texas adoption agencies understand the difficulty that comes from trying to handle the delicate balance of how frequently they do or don’t see their child after adoption. It might be hard to suppress the innate parental instincts and wish to be more involved in your child’s life than was initially agreed upon. It requires empathy, patience, and respect on everyone’s part to maintain mature and open communication throughout the relationship.

Will Adoption Agencies Provide Emotional Support?

When birth mothers choose to work with adoption services, they are given professional guidance from the beginning of their journey. Even when their child is adopted, the support doesn’t abruptly end there. We never want our birth mothers to feel alone because they never are! We want all of them to feel that they are making well-informed decisions that align with their circumstances and preferences.

Even though we briefly discussed the difficulties a birth mother can face with semi-open adoption, many have found feelings of joy and contentment within the process. Putting your baby up for adoption does not mean you “gave up” on your child. In reality, it is a deeply personal choice – one driven by love, selflessness, and a desire to have the best life for themselves and their child.

Here at Adoption Choices of Texas, we have helped so many birth mothers who desperately needed support and love throughout their journey. Our dedicated team consists of professionals who can provide resources and counseling—whether in a one-on-one session or a group setting. We gladly handle being the “middleman” to provide open communication while delicately managing a birth mother’s expectations and the complex emotions that come with it. Reach out to us today; we can take the first steps together. Let us be the compassionate partner you need in this chapter of your story.

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