Birth Father FAQ with Adoption Agencies in Texas
Not only is an unplanned pregnancy a shock to you, but it can be a shock to the birth father too. While you have your own emotions about it, the birth father can have similar ones. If you are still close to him, it can be important to get him involved in the adoption process. As there are different laws depending on when you are, your adoption caseworker can help you figure out how to get the birth father involved if you want. If not, they can also help you with that. The legality of it all really depends on the state.
Here at Adoption Choices of Texas, we want to help you know what you can do with the birth father and how he can be involved in the adoption process. Let’s take a look at what it means to be a birth father.
Unplanned Pregnancy and the Birth Father
You might be feeling a surge of emotions right now, and not all of them are good. It can be a difficult time to get everything sorted. This is why having support is going to make the journey easier emotionally, at least. Just what about the birth father? His feelings also matter, and he could be swimming in them right now. Below are some of the common questions about the birth father that might help you figure out how he’s feeling and what to do.
- What are his emotions like?
Every man is going to be different. He could be feeling embarrassment, fear, or even excitement. It really comes down to your relationship with him and if an unplanned pregnancy is something he can handle. Talk to him about emotions, and let him know that he isn’t alone. You are probably feeling many of the same ones, and just knowing someone understands can be helpful in the long run.
- How involved should the birth father be?
Ideally, he’d be involved in the whole adoption process if your relationship with him is a good one. However, he can be involved in as little or as much as you feel comfortable. Having someone with you can make the process easier, as you can work through ideas with someone rather than having to make them all yourself.
- Can you still have an open adoption?
Yes, you still can. With him involved, he too can go into the option adoption and work with you. With this, you and the birth father can have open communication with the adoptive family and what that will look like depends on the post-placement agreement.
This allows you and him to pick out the adoptive family together. Getting to know them together will also be something that could happen. It allows for him to get to know your baby as they grow up too, and be in their lives. It can allow him to see, alongside you, your baby thriving and enjoying life to the fullest.
- Will his name be on the birth certificate?
Yes, it can be on the original one. When the parental rights are terminated, a new birth certificate is issued with the adoptive parent’s names on it.
- Will our lives change forever?
The short answer is yes. Your lives are going to be forever different now that you are expecting a baby. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, though. Together you and he can talk about adoption and the other options you both have. Together you can decide what is right for you both. It may take some time to figure that out, but remember you and him are facing a life-changing decision.
- What if he doesn’t want adoption?
The simplest way to tackle this is to talk to him. He may not understand why you want to consider adoption. He may not understand what adoption is. Many people still don’t know what adoption is really like and are scared to go through it. Talk to him and talk to your adoption caseworker about what to do here. They should be able to help you talk through what adoption is what to do.
The Birth Father and Texas Adoption
When it comes to adoption and the birth father, don’t be afraid to talk to him about what is going on. He may not understand, and it can be scary. His emotions matter, too, and he is going through many himself. If you are looking for how to talk to him about adoption, don’t hesitate to reach out to Adoption Choices of Texas. What’s stopping you from learning more?
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
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