Adoption: Why Your Child is in Good Hands
By Anna Keller
Are you asking yourself, how will adoption for my baby work? Whether or not you are familiar with adoption, these resources will help you. Local adoption agencies like Adoption Choices of Texas are equipped to guide you through the adoption process. This is an example of a private adoption agency, which differs vastly from a public agency. For instance, if you are looking for a private adoption agency in Dallas, you can connect with an adoption center to begin. Adoption in Texas will be explained once you connect with an agency.
But what if you’re worried about giving your child up for adoption? This fear is natural, expected even. You might think giving up my baby will run the risk of placing it in a ‘bad’ home. But then we have to examine what that looks like. You will be relieved to hear that any family who wants to adopt must undergo a screening process. This means the state must clear them of Texas before they can adopt. If anything looks suspicious, they will not be able to adopt it.
Adoption is a Loving Option
The concern to place your child in a loving home will not automatically waver. That is why your role as the birth mother is so important. Your job is to collaborate with your caseworker on finding a family. The families you choose from will come from a variety of cultural or religious backgrounds. Resultantly, you are allowed to narrow down your choices to families that match your own. Furthermore, you are also allowed to distinguish on the grounds of sexuality, race, and the number of other children in the family. Finally, you can flip through a book of family profiles and arrange meetings with families that meet your criteria.
Other Types of Support to Combat Stigmas
An adoption agency in Dallas, TX, will also provide emotional support, both during and after your pregnancy. You can speak with a counselor or join a birth mother support group, or both. Connecting with other people who are going through what you are may alleviate some of your struggles. Especially because, unfortunately, adoption is still highly stigmatized.
There are certain narratives that dominate the media, such as birth mothers ‘not caring’ about their adopted children. It can be easy to internalize this and convince yourself you do not care about your baby. But you must remember that what you are doing is going to pay off for your child. By adopting out your baby, you are proving your love and care.
Just because you cannot afford to parent does not mean that you do not love your child. That stigma is a cop-out people use in order to weaponize the adoption process. By turning adoption into a ‘last resort,’ both birth mothers and adopted children are targeted. Birth mothers become villainized, and the children become victimized. Being adopted does not make you a ‘victim.’ In fact, most children who are adopted love their adoptive parents. They might not understand the inner mechanisms of adoption right away, but they will eventually. That is another important thing to remember: even if your child does not understand now, they will.
More Adoption Myths
Another misconception about adoption is that adoptive parents use adoption as a ‘last resort.’ This may be true in some cases, but not all. In fact, many adoptive parents adopt simply because they believe it is a good thing to do. Pushing the idea that adoption is only valid as a ‘last resort is harmful to everyone involved. It propagates the false narrative that adopted children grow up to be misfits and ‘troubled.’ This automatically targets adoptive parents, questioning the legitimacy of their parenting style. This stigma seems to conveniently forget that adoptive parents are screened before they are approved for adoption.
Birth Father’s Opinion and Importance of Adoption
Another thing you may be wondering is who chooses adoption. This depends on your relationship with the birth father and, more importantly, who he is as a person. Depending on his standing with Texas law, namely his record, his opinion may not matter at all. If you fall into this category, if you are worried about following through with adoption in spite of the birth father, then fear not. If he is deemed unfit in the eyes of Texas law to be a parent, then his opinion holds no legal relevance.
You can proceed with adoption by yourself, except you won’t actually be alone. Just independent. But just because you are independent does not mean you cannot lean on others. In fact, many birth mothers who have been through adoption will tell you that it’s necessary. This does not erase your independence or weaken you. On the contrary, it is empowering.
Choose Adoption in Texas
In short, adoption as a whole is an incredibly empowering experience, even if it might not always feel like it. You have an entire network of support in these agencies. If your family disagrees with what you are doing, then they have blindly subscribed to the stigmas of adoption. It may feel difficult to ignore their negativity, but it is vital to your health- and your baby’s. Adoption is a positive thing and should be treated as such.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
Adoption Choices of Texas es la única agencia de adopción con servicios completamente en esapñol en el estado de Texas. Si está embarazada y necesita ayuda, llámenos o envíenos un mensaje de texto y uno de nuestros especialistas en adopción podrá ayudarlo. Podemos ayudarte con la adopcion de niños. Para obtener más información sobre el proceso de adopción como una mujer embarazada o una madre biológica, comuníquese con Adoption Choices of Texas. Para español llamar: 888-510-5029