Adoption is Not Giving Up
The phrase “giving up” has, for far too long, been attached to adoption. The two have existed side-by-side for a very long time. Each word deprives birth mothers of their voices, story, and choices. Associating these two things together has created a false idea for birth mothers, as well as the public. The overarching perspective has been that if a woman, who is unexpectedly pregnant chooses to place her child for adoption, she is giving up.
This is simply false.
You, as a birth mother, are not giving up by choosing adoption. You are faced with an incredibly difficult path before you. For you to better understand why choosing adoption is not giving up, Adoption Choices of Texas is here to give you insight into what it means if you choose to do down this courageous and selfless path.
If you need help with adoption now, you can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here.
Giving up your child for adoption
Pregnancy is an incredibly difficult journey. It is full of many highs and lows, causing a wide array of emotions. This is no different for birth mothers in the adoption process. Adoption comes with its own emotional ups and downs. Yet, expectant mothers can relieve some of their stress and anxiety by creating an adoption plan, which will help let them know what to expect throughout the adoption journey.
Deciding to place your child for adoption in Texas is not an easy decision. In fact, it is the most difficult decision that a woman can make in their life. It is not a choice that any birth mother makes rashly or quickly. To decide to place your child for adoption is one that requires a great amount of time, focus, and emotions to get through the adoption journey.
It is the greatest act of love that anyone can make. There is no greater act of selfless love than to put your child’s needs and future above your own. You are not giving up by choosing adoption. Quite the opposite. You are making the most courageous decision imaginable.
Adoption Might be your Best Unplanned Pregnancy Option
It is understandable for you to feel that you are “giving up” by placing your child for adoption. Many birth mothers feel that, by default, they are “giving up” because of the great amount of strain, stress, and emotional distress that can come due to an unexpected pregnancy. Our society too often tells us to smile our way through life, and “pull ourselves up by our bootstraps.”
But, in reality, we can only do our best with our circumstances.
You are facing a tough decision that may be during difficult circumstances. Every birth mothers’ life situation is different. However, many birth mothers are living in stressful and sometimes dangerous circumstances when they find out they are pregnant. By choosing adoption, you are not only doing what is best for your child, but you as well. You are doing the best that you can to keep you and your child safe, happy, and content.
Open Adoption in your Texas Adoption
One of the greatest fears that birth mothers have about choosing adoption is that they will never be able to see or have a relationship with their child. Because of this, it is only natural for birth mothers to think that by choosing adoption, they are “giving up.”
Nowadays, though, the option for you to see your child in any capacity is more available to you now than ever before! Open or semi-open adoptions are becoming the norm more and more all the time. In the past, adoptions used to be viewed as something shameful. Something to keep hidden. But now, birth mothers are taking control of not only their narrative, but also of what they want in their lives. The option for you to see your child after placing them for adoption is available to you, if that is your choice.
After creating an adoption plan, choosing the adoptive parents, and telling your adoption team what your wishes are, you can then build a unique plan of what contact with your child could look like. This will be up to what both you and the adoptive parents decide. This could be through physical visits, letters, phone calls, or email. Whatever way that you feel most comfortable with, you are in control of this process and can have the relationship with your child that you want.
Adoption is Not Giving Up
Adoption and “giving up” have been closely associated with each other for far too long. This cynical way of looking at adoption deprives birth mothers of their voices, story, and choices. It is an old, outdated, and insulting way to look at the brave decision of placing a child for adoption.
Birth mothers are not “giving up” by choosing adoption. Rather, they are making the ultimate selfless act of love. They are doing the best that they can during an incredibly difficult journey, all the while hoping that they may have some kind of relationship with their child.
Whatever you decide, you need to understand that if you choose adoption, you will not be making a rash or selfish choice. Adoption Choices of Texas will be there with you every step of the way. We will give you the support you need to get through this difficult process. Whatever your choice is, remember, you will not be alone.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
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