Adoption 101: If I Put My Baby Up for Adoption, will My Child Hate Me?

As a pregnant woman considering adoption in Texas, we understand that you may have some worries about the adoption process. While it is a very common fear of birth mothers that their children will grow up to hate them, this is in no way true. In fact, it is more likely that your child will recognize the tremendous sacrifice you have made in choosing adoption and will be thankful for the many opportunities your choice has given them.

At Adoption Choices of Texas, our top priority is to make sure you are comfortable with your child’s adoption plan. We are here to help you plan for the future. While we understand that you may have some complicated feelings about your child’s adoption, we can guarantee that your child will never hate you.

If you need help with adoption now, you can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here.

Everyone Benefits in a Texas Adoption

If you are worried about the possibility of your child hating you, we are here to tell you that there is no need to worry. The great thing about adoption in Texas is that everyone benefits, including the birth mother, child, and the adoptive family. While you and the adoptive family will have a new chance at life, your child will be given opportunities they may not otherwise have. You should remember that by choosing adoption, you are giving both your child and the adoptive family the ultimate gift of love.

The number one benefit of adoption for the birth mother is knowing that your child will be loved and taken care of. At Adoption Choices of Texas, we will work hard to match your child with one of our fully-screened prospective adoptive families, all of whom are more than ready to love and welcome your child into their family. Another important benefit of adoption is that your child will be able to create a new life for themselves with new opportunities. In fact, adoptees are more likely than other children to finish their education and advance in their career of choice, all the while being loved and supported by an adoptive family. 

You Can Have a Relationship with Your Child in a Texas Adoption

Another great thing about adoption is that it doesn’t mean goodbye. It is becoming very common for birth mothers to maintain a relationship with their child through an open adoption or an adoption arrangement where the birth mother is in contact with the adoptive family. The best part of choosing an open adoption is that the form of contact is entirely up to you and what you are comfortable with, so you will never be stuck in a confusing or difficult situation.

Many birth mothers with an open adoption plan choose to write letters to their children expressing the many difficult emotions associated with their choice to pursue adoption. While we understand that you may wish to avoid this painful step, it can go a long way towards gaining your child’s acceptance and understanding. Writing can also be an extremely therapeutic process for yourself to deal with any lingering thoughts and feelings. If you decide to write a letter to your birth child, the most important thing is to assure him or her that they are loved and that choosing adoption was never an easy decision.

It is Never Too Late to Choose a Texas Adoption

As a pregnant woman in Texas considering adoption, we understand that it can be difficult to make a decision. At Adoption Choices of Texas, we want to make sure that you are comfortable with your choice, and we encourage you to take all the time you need. We will work with you no matter where you are in your pregnancy and adoption journey, even if your child has already been born.

If you choose to pursue adoption after your child’s delivery, there is no need to worry! Our adoption caseworkers are able to come to you even in the delivery room to start making an adoption plan for your child. Our prospective adoptive parents and families are also prepared for the possibility of a last-minute adoption and will be able to come to you within a moment’s notice. It is important to remember that choosing adoption is always an option, and it will never put you or your child at a disadvantage. We are dedicated to making the best adoption plan for you and your child, no matter what.

Will Your Child Be Thankful if You Choose Adoption?

At Adoption Choices of Texas, we understand that adoption can be an extremely difficult choice. However, it is important to remember that your child will never hate you for choosing adoption, and they will be thankful for the sacrifice you made. By choosing adoption, you are not only giving yourself and the adoptive family a new chance at life, but your child will have opportunities he or she may not otherwise have.

As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!

Meet the Author: Jennie Knuppel is a student at the University of Texas at Austin studying English Literature. She is currently enrolled in the English Honors Program, for which she is writing a thesis in comparative literature prior to graduating in the spring of 2022. Jennie has previously taken courses in literature and both creative and technical writing, and she spent four years working in her high school’s journalism department. 

Jennie is also currently working as a barista, and, in her free time, she enjoys reading and spending time with her family and pets.