4 of the Best Reasons to Choose Lesbian Adoptive Parents in Texas
While you are looking at profiles of prospective parents to adopt your baby, you are going to come across many different types of families. There may be what you think of as the typical family: a father, mother, a dog and the picket fence. However, those aren’t going to be the only families who are looking into adoption. In fact, there are going to be many nontraditional families who are looking to adopt a child as well.
One type of couple or individual you might get a profile from is a lesbian couple or individual. You may have no experience with LGBT adoption so here are some reasons to choose lesbian adoptive parents.
- Lesbian Adoptive Parents are Supportive
One thing you want for your baby is for the adoptive parent to be supportive. Because your baby hasn’t been born yet, there is no idea to know where their life is going to go. Just as there is no way of knowing who they are going to be or what they even want to do when they become adults. Having supportive parents can make or break a child. While the world is more open than ever before, a lesbian couple or individual knows how important it is to love, encourage and support your child. Emotional support is one of the most essential things any child needs to develop into a happy and healthy adult.
Many times, emotionally supporting a child is overlooked, or thought of as not possible when considering LGBT adoptive parents to raise your raise. That they won’t understand how to love or care for your child in the way he or she needs it most. But, this is not the case with lesbian adoptive parents. Many lesbian couples and individuals, through past experiences, fully understand the struggle and will be there for your child no matter what.
- Two moms are better than one
One of the strongest bonds your child will have is with their adoptive mothers. While there are some relationships where a mother figure is not present, that doesn’t mean that it’s not sought after. With lesbian adoptive parents, you have the opportuity to see your child thrive in a home with two mothers who will love and care for him or her in the best way possible.
If you aren’t sure how an adoptive family with two mothers works, that’s ok and presents a great question to ask your child’s potential adoptive parents. Getting to know the adoptive parents is so important. It allows you to understand your child’s adoptive parents on a deeper level, and gives you insight into how they want to raise the child.
- Your Child will be Surrounded by a Loving and Accepting Community
One of the concerns you may have with lesbian adoptive parents is thelacking a male figure in your child’s life. While this concern is valid, there are more places for your child to have that male figure besides their adoptive parents. It takes a village to raise a child, and your child is going to be surrounded by a loving and accepting community, where they will learn how loved they are by mother and father figures alike. This community is the adoptive parents’ support system and will help shape your child into a strong and accepting adult.
That said, you don’t need to worry about your child not having strong male role models around them. But, even so, the LGBT community is not held by traditional gender roles, and your child will still live and experience a well-balanced life. Being raised by two mothers doesn’t mean your child will be lacking in important parental influence. Quite the opposite.
- Lesbian Adoptive Parents can have a Unique Relationship with You
It might be easier for you to connect with two women rather than a man and a woman. For instance, you may have a a bad relationship with your child’s birth father, leading to feel more comfortable around lesbian adoptive parents. As the birth mother, you may find that lesbian adoptive parents women can empathize with what you are going through, because they can see from the perspective of a mother’s heart.
As aforementioned, getting to know your child’s adoptive parents — especially if you agree to an open adoption — is extremely important to the success of your adoption journey. Don’t be afraid to ask the couple or individual questions. Build a strong and healthy relationship with them. Learn how they met. Who they are together, and as separate people. Ask about their interests. Talk about what things will look like after the adoption has been finalized. There is so much comfort and reassurance in learning who will be raising your child post adoption.
Reasons to Choose Lesbian Adoptive Parents
No matter who you choose to adopt your child, make sure it is completely your choice. If a couple or individual doesn’t feel right, then don’t choose them. However, don’t let an imagined image of the “perfect adoptive family” perfect you from choosing either. No adoptive family will be perfect, but there will be a couple or individual who is the best fit for you and your child.
Your child deserves the best home they can be in, and by letting preconceived notions or uneducated views get in the way, you may miss out on potential adoptive parents who could offer your child an amazing life. We understand that making the final decision is not easy, but we encourage you to consider every type of adoptive family, including lesbian adoptive parents. They might not be the ones you had in mind originally, but they could end up making your child happier than you could’ve ever imagined.
As an expectant woman or birth parent, to learn more about adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Texas. You can call us at 888-307-3340, text us at 888-307-3340, or email us here. If you are hoping to adopt, please visit us here. We look forward to helping you through your adoption journey!
Meet the Author: Courtney Moore was born in Huntington Beach, California. She is currently attending college for English with a minor in History. Her love for writing started at the age of 11 when she won a class competition for a personification of candy in a short story. In her junior year of high school, she was an editor for her school’s literary magazine. In her senior year of high school, her then English teacher told her that she should pursue a career as a literary scholar. The main reason she decided to not pursue that path is that her passions lied more in the creation of writings than the review of it.
She currently lives in Las Vegas with her very spoiled cat Abby, who she happily adopted from the local animal shelter. Courtney has been a supporter of animal adoptions her whole life.
Her interest in child adoptions began at the age of 14. It was at that age that she learned of how many children were in the foster system. Her own childhood was very unstable; however, she was able to stay with at least one of her parents for a majority of it. As she got older, her interests in adoptions grew. Her hopes are that, one day, the foster care system is fixed and is treated as it should be.